Even though there are a host of online resources for those suffering as a result of sexual addiction, sometimes nothing beats curling up with a good old-fashioned book. Okay, okay … so maybe you can also enjoy these books through the warm glow of an electronic reading device. Either way, here they are, a list of books recommended by websites, experts, and people who have faced this challenge. We hope you will find peace, hope, direction, and healing in their pages. (We’ve listed our personal favorites at the top of the list!)

Our Favorites:

Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

Codependents’ Guide to the Twelve Steps. Melody Beattie.

Good Pictures Bad Pictures, Kristen Jenson. http://goodpicturesbadpictures.com (TAGS: Teaching kids.)

He Restoreth My Soul: Understanding and Breaking the Chemical and Spiritual Chains of Pornography Addiction Through the Atonement of Jesus Christ (2010), Donald L. Hilton, Jr., M.D.; Forward Press. (TAGS: Understanding Pornography and Sexual Addiction, LDS Perspective)

Healing the Shame that Binds You. John Bradshaw

Moving Beyond Betrayal. Vicki Tidwell Palmer

S-Anon 12-Steps, S-Anon Literature [for the loved ones of sexual addicts] www.sa.org (TAGS: Relating to 12-Step Programs for an Afflicted Spouse or Loved One)

The Anatomy of Peace

Understanding Pornography, http://salifeline.org/bookstore-item/understanding-pornography

What Can I do About Him Me? (2012), Rhyll Croshaw

What’s the Big Deal about Pornography? A Guide for the Internet Generation (2008), Jill C. Manning; Shadow Mountain Press (General Audience/Parents and Youth). (TAGS: Understanding Pornography and Sexual Addiction, General Perspective; For Individuals Struggling with Problematic Sexual Behaviors)

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A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps, The Classic Guide for All People In the Process of Recovery (1993), Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. Hazelden. (TAGS: For Individuals Struggling with Problematic Sexual Behaviors, Books Relating to 12-Step Programs)

Addiction Recovery Program: A Guide to Addiction Recovery and Healing, LDS Family Services. (TAGS: Books Relating to 12-Step Programs for the Sexually Addicted)

Affairs: A Guide to Working Through the Repercussions of Infidelity (1999), Emily M. Brown. (TAGS: For Spouses)

After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner has been Unfaithful (1994), Janis Abrams Spring. Harper Collins Publishers. (TAGS: For Spouses)

An Affair of the Mind. Laurie Hall.

Arise! by Brett Walker (This is a true-to-life story of a man who just “got caught” and the lessons he learns from angels in his life.)

At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry. Steve Gallagher.

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Boundaries and Relationships: Knowing, Protecting, and Enjoying the Self, Charles Whitfield (TAGS: For Spouses and Family Members)

Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

 

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Captivating. John & Stasi Eldredge.

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself, Melody Beattie; Hazelden. ­(TAGS: Written to the Afflicted Spouse or Loved One of a Pornography and Sexual Addict, General Perspective)

Codependents’ Guide to the Twelve Steps. Melody Beattie.

Confronting Pornography: A Guide to Prevention and Recovery for Individuals, Loved Ones, and Leaders (2005), Mark Chamberlain, Dan Gray, & Rory Reid (Editors); Deseret Book. (TAGS: Understanding Pornography and Sexual Addiction, LDS Perspective)

Cybersex Unhooked: A Workbook for Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior (2001), David L. Delmonico, Elizabeth Griffin & Joseph Moriarity. (TAGS: For Individuals Struggling with Problematic Sexual Behaviors)

 

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Dance of Intimacy: A Woman’s Guide to Courageous Act of Change in Key Relationships, Harriet Lerner (TAGS: For Spouses and Family Members)

Discussing Pornography Problems with a Spouse: Confronting and Disclosing Secret Behaviors (2002 & 2005), Rory C. Reid & Dan Gray. Mental Health Publications, Salt Lake City, UT. (TAGS: For Spouses)

Divorce Busting: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again. Michele Weiner-Davis. (TAGS: For Couples)

 

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Every Woman, Every Day Devotional: Daily Encouragement For Every Woman’s Heart. Shannon Ethridge. (TAGS: For Female Addicts)

Every Woman’s Battle: Discovering God’s Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment. Shannon Ethridge. (TAGS: For Female Addicts)

Every Woman’s Marriage: Igniting the Joy and Passion You Both Desire. Shannon & Greg Ethridge. (TAGS: For Female Addicts, For Couples, Christian)

Every Young Woman’s Battle: Guarding Your Mind, Heart, and Body in a Sex-Saturated World. Shannon Ethridge & Stephen Arterburn. (TAGS: For Female Addicts, For Teens)

Every Single Woman’s Battle: Powerful Tools for Guarding Your Body, Mind, and Heart. Shannon Ethridge. (TAGS: For Female Addicts, For Singles)

 

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Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual & Relationship Recovery (2005), Patrick Carnes. (TAGS: For Couples)

From Heartache to Healing: Finding Power In Christ to Deal With A Loved One’s Sexual Addiction (2010), Colleen C. & Philip A. Harrison, Windhaven Publishing. (TAGS: Written to the Afflicted Spouse or Loved One of a Pornography and Sexual Addict, LDS Perspective)

 

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Good Pictures Bad Pictures, Kristen Jenson. http://goodpicturesbadpictures.com

Growing Up: Gospel Answers about Maturation and Sex (2000), Brad Wilcox; Deseret Book Company. (TAGS: Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality, LDS Perspective)

 

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He Did Deliver Me from Bondage (2002), Colleen G. Harrison; Windhaven Publishing and Productions. (TAGS: Books Relating to 12-Step Programs for the Sexually Addicted or for an Afflicted Spouse or Loved One, LDS Perspective)

He Restoreth My Soul: Understanding and Breaking the Chemical and Spiritual Chains of Pornography Addiction Through the Atonement of Jesus Christ (2010), Donald L. Hilton, Jr., M.D.; Forward Press. (TAGS: Understanding Pornography and Sexual Addiction, LDS Perspective),https://salifeline.org/product/he-restoreth-my-soul/

Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction (2004). Mark Laaser. Zondervan Publishing, Grand Rapids, Michigan. (TAGS: For Individuals Struggling with Problematic Sexual Behaviors)

Healing the Shame that Binds You. John Bradshaw

Healing Through Christ. A 12-step workbook for loved ones in addiction.

Healing Your Marriage When Trust is Broken. Cindy Beall.

Home Invasion: Protecting Your Family in a Culture that’s Gone Stark Raving Mad. Rebecca Hagelin. (TAGS: For Parents)

How and When to Tell Your Kids About Sex: A Lifelong Approach to Shaping Your Child’s Sexual Character. Brenna & Stan Jones. (TAGS: For Parents, Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality)

How Can I Forgive You?: The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To, Janis A. Spring (TAGS: For Spouses and Family Members)

How to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography,  www.educateempowerkids.org

How to Talk to Your Child about Sex (1999), Linda and Richard Eyre; St. Mark’s Press. (TAGS: Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality, LDS Perspective)

 

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In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior (2001), Patrick Carnes, David L. Delmonico & Elizabeth Griffin. Hazelden, Center City, MN. (TAGS: For Individuals Struggling with Problematic Sexual Behaviors)

Infidelity on the Internet: Virtual Relationships and Real Betrayal (2001), Marlene M. Maheu & Rona B. Subotnik. Sourcebooks Inc., Naperville, Illinois. (TAGS: For Spouses)

I Surrender All. Clay & Renee Crosse.

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Journey to Healing & Joy Workbook. Marsha Means, MA

 

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Kids Ask About Sex: Honest Answers for Every Age. Edited by Melissa R. Cox & the Medical Institute for Sexual Health. (TAGS: For Parents, Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality)

 

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Let Virtue Garnish Thy Thoughts, LDS Church Distribution. (TAGS: LDS Perspective)

Lies Women Believe. Nancy Leigh DeMoss.

Living with Your Husband’s Secret Wars (1999), Marsha Means. Fleming H. Revell, Grand Rapids, MI. (TAGS: For Spouses)

Lord, I Believe; Help Thou Mine Unbelief, Rod W. Jeppsen (TAGS: For Spouses and Family Members)

Lord, I Believe; Help Thou Mine Unbelief: A Workbook Approach (2005), Rod W. Jeppsen. (TAGS: Written to the Afflicted Spouse or Loved One of a Pornography and Sexual Addict, LDS Perspective)

Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity (2011), Mark Chamberlain, PhD & Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT. (TAGS: Written to the Afflicted Spouse or Loved One of a Pornography and Sexual Addict, LDS Perspective)

 

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Moving Beyond Betrayal. Vicki Tidwell Palmer

 

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Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, Marshall B. Rosenberg. (TAGS: For Couples)

NOT “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity (2004), Shirley Glass and Jean Coppock Staeheli. (TAGS: For Spouses)

 

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Open Hearts: Renewing Relationships with Recovery, Romance & Reality (1999), Patrick Carnes, Debra Laaser & Mark Laaser. (TAGS: For Couples)

Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction (2001), Patrick Carnes; Hazelden. (TAGS: Understanding Pornography and Sexual Addiction, General Perspective)

 

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Parenting Teens with Love & Logic. Foster W. Cline & Jim Fay. (TAGS: For Parents, Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality, (TAGS: For Teens))

Parenting with Love & Logic. Foster W. Cline & Jim Fay. (TAGS: For Parents, Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality)

Pornified: How Pornography is Transforming Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families. Pamela Paul. (TAGS: For Parents)

Preparing Your Daughter for Every Woman’s Battle: Creative Conversations about Sexual and Emotional Integrity. Shannon Ethridge. (TAGS: For Female Addicts, For Parents, Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality)

Protecting Your Child in an X-Rated World: What You Need to Know to Make a Difference. Frank York & Jan LaRue. (TAGS: For Parents)

Purity and Passion: Spiritual Truths about Intimacy That Will Strengthen Your Marriage. Wendy L. Watson. Deseret Book. (TAGS: For Individuals Struggling with Problematic Sexual Behaviors)

Putting on the Armor of God (the green bible) – Steven A. Cramer

 

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Rock-Solid Relationships: Strengthening Personal Relationships With Wisdom from the Scriptures, Wendy L. Watson, Deseret Book. (TAGS: For Couples)

 

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S-Anon 12-Steps, S-Anon Literature [for the loved ones of sexual addicts] www.sa.org (TAGS: Relating to 12-Step Programs for an Afflicted Spouse or Loved One)

Sexaholics Anonymous White Book (1989), SA Literature. — For Pornography & Sexual Addicts, www.sa.org (TAGS: Books Relating to 12-Step Programs for the Sexually Addicted)

Shattered Vows. Debra Laaser.

Small and Simple Things. Marjorie Pay Hinckley. (TAGS: Inspirational)

So Long Insecurity. Beth Moore.

 

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Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World that Pulls Us Apart, William J. Doherty, Guilford Press. (TAGS: For Couples)

“Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality: A Parent’s Guide,” see www.lds.org Family Home Evening Resource Manual (1983), (p 253–60). (TAGS: Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality, LDS Perspective)

Ten Talks Parents Must Have with Their Children about Sex and Character. Pepper Schwartz & Dominic Cappello. (TAGS: For Parents, Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality)

The Anatomy of Peace

The Bonds That Make Us Free: Healing Our Relationships, Coming to Ourselves. C. Terry Warner.

The Courage to Be Yourself

The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships, Harriet G. Lerner. Harper & Row, New York, NY. (TAGS: For Spouses)

The Dance of Deception: A Guide to Authenticity and Truth-Telling in Women’s Relationships, Harriet G. Lerner. Harper & Row, New York, NY. (TAGS: For Spouses)

The Dance of Intimacy. Harriet G. Lerner. Harper & Row, New York, NY. (TAGS: For Spouses)

The DNA of Relationships. Gary Smalley.

The Miracle of Forgiveness. Spencer W. Kimball. (TAGS: LDS Perspective)

The Peacegiver: How Christ Offers to Heal our Hearts and Homes, James L. Ferrell, Deseret Book. (TAGS: For Couples)

The Porn Trap (2008), Wendy Maltz & Larry Maltz. (TAGS: For Individuals Struggling with Problematic Sexual Behaviors)

The Search for Significance. Robert S. McGee.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. John M. Gottman. Three Rivers Press. (TAGS: For Couples)

Think Confident, Be Confident for Teens. Marci G Fox, PhD, & Leslie Sokol, PhD. (TAGS: For Teens)

Through His Eyes. Virginia H. Pierce.

 

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Understanding Pornography,https://salifeline.org/education/

 

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What Can I do About Him Me? (2012), Rhyll Croshaw, https://salifeline.org/product/what-can-i-do-about-me/

What’s the Big Deal about Pornography? A Guide for the Internet Generation (2008), Jill C. Manning; Shadow Mountain Press (General Audience/Parents and Youth). (TAGS: Understanding Pornography and Sexual Addiction, General Perspective; For Individuals Struggling with Problematic Sexual Behaviors)

Where Did I Come From? (2000), Peter Mayle; Kensington Publishing Corp. (TAGS: Teaching Children about Healthy Sexuality)

Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last. John Gottman, PhD.

Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man’s Soul. John Eldredge. (TAGS: For Individuals Struggling with Problematic Sexual Behaviors)

 

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You Can Heal Your Life. Louise L. Hay.

Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal (2009), Barbara Steffens & Marsha Means; New Horizon. ­(TAGS: Written to the Afflicted Spouse or Loved One of a Pornography and Sexual Addict, General Perspective)

 

(Many of these titles are from the following sources: http://salifeline.org/resources/, http://www.drjillcmanning.com/id12.html, http://combatingpornography.org)