YSAs, dating, pornography — What to do?

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Recently, Elder Holland, Sister Stephens, and Elder Hallstrom had a Face-to-Face event with the young single adults (YSAs) of the Church. In that discussion, the topic of dating and pornography came up, with a question about whether someone should run from a relationship if she/he finds out the person she/he is dating has had issues with pornography. Sister Reeves encouraged looking at the person’s heart, and considering carefully whether he/she is willing to go to 12 step, to work on it together.

But what does it mean to “work at it?” What does someone who is working on it talk like, act like, do? What kinds of warning signs are there to look for?

Here are a couple of resources that could help YSAs navigate these questions. Running will usually only keep you in ignorance, unless you are running because you understand pornography and addiction and you see clear warning signs. Before you run (again, unless you are sure the relationship is toxic or dangerous), learn! And then discern through the Spirit — as Sister Reeves counseled — what you should do.

Love, Trust, and Truth: Talking About Pornography When You’re Dating

Resource 1:

Time to Talk about Trust and Truth: How Pornography Affects Dating and Relationships — PDF article by Vauna Davis, Executive Director of the Utah Coalition Against Pornography (UCAP).

Resource 2:

A panel from the UCAP conference last spring about dating and pornography.

Time to Talk About Trust and Truth: How Pornography Affects Dating and Relationships from Vauna Davis on Vimeo.

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