The water lily

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Many of us come to Hope & Healing during the lowest point in our lives.

We are lost in the muck. We can’t breathe. We are drowning. But like lily pads, somehow we find our way in the darkness. We send up shoots of green … slowly, faithfully. We strive toward the surface, growing persistently toward the warmth of the sun.

Then one day, we finally break the surface. Time goes by, and we grow stronger–together with others who are also rising from the scum. (Have you ever seen a solitary lily pad?) We find strength and nourishment together. And then we begin to flower, petal by precious petal.

Each lily represents a long journey from the deadness below. Our roots are still there. But as we bloom, our glory outweighs our trial.

Our history and future

Several years ago, a small cluster of brave women joined hands to begin this journey together: a journey from darkness to healing. We were wives and loved ones of porn addicts. Many of us had never told another living soul until we came here. Many of us were under the impression that we were the only one. Some are still here. We have stayed to help tend our precious water garden. Others have gone. They have healed or–even better–found their calling along the way.

Dozens of women in our ranks are now working with our partners in the anti-pornography movement, including Healing Through Christ, Women for Decency, The Togetherness Project, Addo Recovery, ISEEU Hope, and the National Coalition to End Sexual Exploitation. When women join here, they not only connect with other women, but also with a wealth of information and resources. It truly takes a village to heal from addiction and betrayal trauma, and that village is growing! So much has changed since we launched H&H more than three years ago, and we are thrilled to watch as the network expands.

H&Hbanner_edited-1And where would we be without Michelle, our founder? She was–and continues to be–the shepherdess. As admin at Mormon Women, she began receiving so many queries regarding spouses and pornography addiction that she felt prompted to launch a special spot: Hope & Healing. It was her vision that made this space possible. And because she followed through, countless women have been helped. Working together, we are finding our way out of the muck.

And now … We are strong! We are empowered women who have chosen to “make our mess our message.” And we are a force to be reckoned with.

Our new lookH&Hinitials

In an effort to show some love to our ladies and to keep Hope & Healing beautiful and fresh, we’ve recreated our brand. Throughout the process, we decided the water lily was a perfect fit. (Actually, Jacy introduced us to the symbolism of the water lily three years ago when she launched her new logo for My Name is Jacy, and we have been in love with it ever since!)

Many thanks to all the women who participate here. Each plays such an important role. Sometimes we help, and sometimes we heal, but we are all needed. That’s the magic of H&H.

Connect with us!

We hope you enjoy our new look! As part of the launch, we are distributing our new blog button. If you see others who are using the old one, please let them know! Here’s the code:

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Happy Healing!


The H&H Staff


2 Responses

  1. Daisy

    This is a great post. Thank you for your work and sharing your insight.

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