There have been several posts as of late that discuss the addiction cycle (either directly or indirectly). Everyone describes it a little differently, but perhaps reading various posts can help you think through what patterns you see in your own situation. Some of the posts also explore how the spouse and children become affected by the cycle, and some simple things spouses can do to start to heal from the trauma and effects of the cycle.
The cycle itself may sound hopeless, but one of the important steps toward healing is understanding how addiction works, so we share this information with a desire to facilitate understanding.
We’re including some therapist points of view on this as well, including insights on how this cycle affects the spouse.
Fight the New Drug: The Addiction Cycle
Ask Rhyll: How do you recognize when it is “recovery” and when it is just one of the regular stretches in the [addiction] cycle?
Harriet: Definitions and Cycles
Jane: The Cycle
Wildflower: How living with a sex addict dad has affected my kids (and part 2) [Interesting extension of how the cycle affected both the dad and the mom, and some of how that impacts the children]
eileenrhea: Intimacy and light bulbs
Geoff Steurer, LMFT: What’s a Woman to Do? How Pornography Affects Women and What They Can Do
Brannon Patrick, LCSW: Extinguishing the Fear: Breaking free from the fear cycle