Dr. Jill Manning: Healing Concepts for Women Impacted by a Loved One’s Pornography Use

Dr. Jill Manning, expert in sexual addiction (with a focus on the impact sexual addiction has on wives of those who are addicted or deal with compulsive sexual behaviors), shares helpful information in this lds.org article.

Although downplayed and dismissed by many, pornography consumption by a spouse is devastating and should not be underestimated in terms of the far-reaching consequences it has on trust, intimacy, family life, children, finances, the marital friendship, and, in a growing number of cases, the existence of the marriage itself. Aside from abuse, I know of no other marital issue that affects the very soul of women more than pornography consumption by a spouse.

Too often, the discovery or disclosure of a pornography problem in marriage causes women to slip into unhealthy comparisons; to engage in inappropriate behavior themselves; or to spiral downward into depression, self-doubt, and in some cases, even suicidal thinking. These responses, although unhelpful, are understandable when the magnitude of damage, betrayal, and hurt are understood. Pornography, by nature and name, diminishes virtue, love, creativity, healthy sexuality, personal and relational growth, and honesty. Consequently, responding to pornography problems in marriage requires that we be exceptionally honest and clear about what pornography is, what it is not, how it has impacted our relationship and self-concept, and what is the best way to respond.

Read more in the article here.

Hear more from Dr. Jill Manning in the following videos:

Addressing the marital crisis that addiction brings to those affected

Why pornography use can be so devastating to a spouse

Finding support — you are not alone

Pornography linked to large global web

Why is porn a growing problem?

Is there hope for recovery?